Since we have a few men on staff here, we’d thought we’d ask them and some others outside the office what they like to see in a woman and what makes a lady…a lady. Some things were surprising while others we kind of already knew existed in the back of men’s minds. So without further ado, here are men’s thoughts on how to be a lady in the present day.
Don’t Be a Bitch
As much as guys like the occasional bitchy behavior and get turned on by it, they don’t want you to be that way 24/7. They want to be in a relationship with an actual woman, not a mean-spirited person. So while it’s okay to show your bitchy side once in awhile, don’t overdo it. Show him you also have a heart and that you’re actually a kind person.
Don’t Have a Potty Mouth
Talk like a lady, not like a sailor.
Although you may see girls on your favorite reality series throwing out dirty words, that doesn’t mean you should emulate their behavior. Guys want a woman who is classy, someone who speaks like they went to prep school, even if you actually only made it to city college.
Don’t Act Like A Feminist
With all the talk about feminism on the TV these days, it’s no wonder guys are put off by it. All us girls really want is equal pay and respect but some women have taken it way too far. Some of them are content to look and act like a man, and that for obvious reasons won’t get you a man.
From the first flirt to once you enter into a relationship with a guy, you must always act like a lady, a feminine lady. Yes, it’s possible to be independent, have a career, and still be feminine.
But men also need to see that submissive side too from time to time. Let them take the lead in the relationship or on the date. If they don’t feel like they’re the ones in charge when they’re with you, they may not stick around much longer.
Resist All Urges Of Getting A Tattoo
I know that a lot of women have them now, but from all the men we polled inside and outside the office, the overwhelming majority said they didn’t care for them. Some even said they hated them and were turned off just by the site of them on a woman’s body.
Have you ever noticed that NFL cheerleaders don’t have tattoos? That’s not a coincidence. Most fans are men and men don’t want to see a pretty cheerleader with a tattoo that looks like it belongs on a marine.
Think of the beautiful women from the past. Can you even imagine Grace Kelly or Marilyn Monroe having one of these? It’s just ridiculous and men see it the same way.
If you already have one, save up your money and get it removed. It’s going to look ridiculous on you by the time you’re 35 if it doesn’t already.
Start Wearing Skirts and Dresses
Yes, jeans are comfy. I love mine too and wear them from time to time. But I also know that men love women who look feminine…and there are clothes that make me look more like a woman than jeans do.
Even in the boardroom, women can still look sexy and be taken seriously at the same time by wearing a skirt suit so if you’re wearing a skirt for co-workers, why wouldn’t you dress just as sexy for your man?
If you want to rip off the biz suit when you get home from work and throw on the jeans instead, then do it. But when it’s time to hit the town again with your man, or when looking for one, show that feminine side by putting on a skirt again. I guarantee you the guy you’re trying to attract will take notice.
Follow the tips above and men will take notice of the changes you’ve made. It doesn’t take much to be a lady in their eyes; just a return to the good old days of expressing your feminine self.